If you ask a group of people to define happiness - chances are you will be staring at multiple ideas ...Theres so many ppl who wake up saying "I just want to be happy " ..Have we placed happiness on too high a pedestal ? ...like something thats just meant to happen ...a state that needs to be attained and sustained ..forever ..from its conception to the end of our times.
Why dont any of us wake up in the morning and say " I just want to make someone happy " ..much the same way like when we fall in love ..we fear that whoever it is we are in love with will stop loving us back ..instead of fearing that we will never stop loving them even after they choose to walk away .
Someone once told me that I should try and fall in love . It was my chance at being goal oriented . That it would make me happy . Love would complete me and there would be companionship . That I should not be too picky - because compromise defined life . I said I wish it were that easy .
And then years later - while I tried to maintain a clear mind and balance today , I could not help but smile.
Theres happiness , theres plenty of love , companionship even ..and I was definately not being picky ....because I;d found those things in multiple avenues and other people -and in myself even . I guess my wish came true.
Maybe I didnt find it all in one person ? ...but can anyone really ?
So nowadays - its not an uncommon assumption on the part of a lot of people - that just because someone is unattatched , that theres no happiness , love ..that its stemming from high expectations and being too rigid .
It really makes me wonder who came up with these words and definitions.
Who came up with the word "unattatched " anyways ?!
It makes me gag when people say that ..just like when people say .."it wasnt personal" ...what they mean is that it wasnt personal to them ..lol ..so when someone asks me if I'm unattached ..I want to say that the last time I checked I wasnt surgically plugged into a wall if thats what they were getting at ...or ask them to recollect what their english teachers had said about men being islands ..:)
..like the last time I was asked if I was single and available ..I wanted to say that I came in packs of twos and at if you bought two of me then you could have the 3rd one for free.
I guess if one was too be too rigid - then instead of having an open mind and being flexible to the whims of fate and love as it meant to them , one would succumb to a fixed pre defined notion of what constituted as an everyday defintition of love a.k.a happiness and try and do anything and everything to make it come true ..even if it were a tad forced and over the top ..did someone mention the word expectations ?..high or otherwise.
I guess if one was attempting to have a flexible mind about where life was leading them - they would be enjoying the change in the seasons and smiling at the moonlight .... Because they wouldnt have any more expectations about who or what tommorrow brought than what today did ..because today looked pretty darn good .Relatively ofcourse :)
Laughing out Loud .
Amen.
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